Kesha Palmer, Opinion Writer

Many individuals share the same goal of getting married and having kids and living happily ever after. While some succeed in completing this goal many of them do not. Approximately fifty percent of American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s second marriage. This can cause some complications in a child’s upbringing.There are times when a marriage is decelerating and the lovers’ panic in fear of divorce. Desperate to do everything they can to keep their marriage alive, they decide that having a kid will bring them closer. Having a kid is a big responsibility and cannot be used as a way of covering up the faults in your marriage. Infants can be hard to take care and require a lot of patience and attention. A child should not have to suffer for your lack of responsibility because you swear you found “the one” and are too afraid to admit that your marriage isn’t working out. Witnessing a parents’ split can be traumatic and affect the child in their upbringing. Studies from the early 1980’s demonstrated that children in situations where their parents had been involved in multiple divorces earned lower grades than their peers. Not all marriage ends in this way and sometimes the reasons for a divorce can be serious, such as abuse.

While in a custody battle the court will generally favor and lean toward the mother, however, the court still wants to ensure the child will grow up with both parents. Unstable father-child relationships tend to have a history of vulnerability to drugs and alcohol in adolescents. It can also lead fears about commitment and divorce. Children of divorced parents tend to have negative memories of the legal system that forced custody and visitation. Custody battles don’t have a specific time stamp so some children are put into foster homes. This can be damaging to a child’s self-esteem and tends to raise questions of abandonment. If a child is put into a foster home it is typically to keep him safe from abuse or neglect. However, it’s important to not only make sure the child is safe but that they are comfortable. Most foster parents agree that it is important to try and keep the child’s life as “normal” as possible. Switching schools is not ideal but it’s not always possible to keep the child in the same school. This can affect a child’s confidence especially if the child switches school in the middle of the year.

According to an analysis by University of Maryland sociology professor Philip Colon, the divorce rate in the U.S. dropped by 18 percent from 2008 t0 2016. Many young couples are delaying marriage, not because they want to find “the one,” but so they feel financially secure.

Curious, I took it upon myself to ask my fellow classmates. Eight students said that their parents were no longer together and six said their parents were together. It’s not bad to have split parents and as of recently it’s more common so don’t be afraid to admit that your parents are no longer together.